got to read this very interesting article by Hannah Seligson
What are some of the staples of being ALBM?
You spend holidays together. You live together. You have joint custody of a pet. You talk on the phone with his/her relatives. You go each other’s family vacations. You wonder, “Where is this going?” You’ve made geographic or career adjustments for the other person.
Why do people stay in long-term relationships if they know there isn’t a future?The pull of inertia is quite powerful. After years of dating (and particularly if you live together), couples have bonded deeply, often making it quite difficult to disentangle and divvy up the circle of friends, belongings, and restaurants you’ve accumulated over the years. Plus, people often employ the relationship math of three years invested + fear of being single = trying to stay together.
